Acknowledging Our Emotions
Can we talk about emotions today? I’m emotional and I have been for a couple of weeks now. I know, I’m actually admitting that for the past couple of weeks I’ve been emotional. YIKES! Now, I’m going to talk to you guys about it because it’s a normal part of life and we need to talk about the real things that happen in life. Emotions and feelings aren’t wrong; they are right and healthy.
First, I started by looking up the word emotion. Silly? Maybe, but I needed a clear place to begin. According to dictionary.com emotion is a noun. It is defined as: (a) an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness; (b) any of the feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, love, etc; (c) any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love, hate fear etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes, as increased heartbeat or respiration, and often overt manifestation, as crying or shaking.
Well, that’s a whole lot of words to say… emotions are complex.
I’m going to be totally transparent with you all. My emotions have run the gamut from anger, to sadness, to frustration, to excitement over the last couple of weeks. At times it’s been overwhelming, but I have found myself going back to my basics. Nature. Sunshine. Fresh air. Finding my happy. Guess what? It works.
Anger isn’t something I usually let myself feel. I want it to be a fleeting emotion for me and not something that I’m stuck trying to deal with or understand. This time, I’ve had to really dig deep to acknowledge it and to accept that it’s good for me to feel this. Anger is part of the grieving process and what I’m going through is grief of dreams, ideas and so much more. When I’m angry I find myself wanting to sob because I’m unable to use my words and all the emotion pours out through my tears.
Sadness has probably been the feeling that I’ve experienced more often then I’d like to admit. With sadness comes a huge amount of faith on my part. It’s easy for me to say I’m sad. I know this both consciously and subconsciously. I’m sad that God has plans for me that I don’t understand. I’m sad that things change and are out of my control. I’m sad that there is so much hate in the world right now. And I’m sad that I often feel unworthy and allow others’ opinions influence how I live my life. But, I’m human and words can hurt regardless of what their intent was.
We all feel frustration at times. I’ve felt it so much lately because I haven’t wanted to accept the countless feelings that run through my body, sometimes all at once. When we fail to make an attempt to recognize that our feelings and emotions are real (and normal) we cause undue stress on our bodies. For me, frustration is so many things combined. It’s like a giant sushi roll with everything rolled into it and that you’d never want to eat it much less look at it.
Last, but certainly not least, I want to talk about excitement. I have been so excited lately! With the other emotions comes a flurry of anticipation for what’s to come. I’ve learned in the last couple years that when you open your heart and mind, unbelievable things can happen. I also learned that believing in the magic of everyday life and love and having faith is what will get us through each day. Each time I wondered why I was at this crossroads, it wasn’t long after that something else came into my life and I would see the brightness shine through the dark.
Please take a moment to think about your last couple of weeks. How have you felt? What emotions have been present in your life? Accept that emotions and feelings have a place and a space in our lives. When we let the emotions flow and welcome what they bring to our lives we open ourselves to so much. Allow your body to express the emotion, whether it’s through movement, art, exercise or even meditation. You know what works for you. Find your happy, but most of all, acknowledge your feelings and emotions and accept them. Once you do you'll be able to let them go and move on.
These are some of my favorite resources that I’ve found. They have helped me on so many levels. Check them out if you’re inclined.
Jessie B. Lucas -- http://bit.ly/JBL-Emotions
Tiny Budda -- http://bit.ly/TB-Emotions